Posts by Gone and forgotten

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Hello

by Garrett in

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hello forum,.

i'm new here and not sure where to post.

so, i'm 21 years old and currently a baptized witness, however, i'm slowly making my mind up to leave and here's why.. first, there are certain things that make no sense to me in the organization.

Hi Garrett...welcome! Easiest thing to do is nothing. Since you recently moved, if you haven't really become part of the new congregation just stop going. If questioned by anyone, let them know of you're depression and tell them you are working on it. Most likely that will be the end of it.

You said your family are not JW's, so if possible try reconnecting with them. Fortunately,you are young and can now live your life free from the repression and control that ruins lives. Many of us here only got out after many wasted decades, and are stuck living a lie to keep friends and family. So use your new found freedom to live your life to the fullest.

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The Opal Ring: a story based on the true life of Jehovah's Witnesses

by Julia Orwell in

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it's finally finished!

it's a fictional story about an old jw.

it is very long, about 7000 words.. the opal ring.

Gone and forgotten

Thanks Julia. Great story.

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Grandpa died, they didn't say anything

by Sir cid fatos in

hey guys.

my grandpa died recently, for a reason i told my jw friends about it.

and they literally didn't say anything about it at moved on to another subject like nothing happened.

Gone and forgotten

Sir Cid, I am sorry for your loss. Be patient with your friends. If they know you well, they may have been trying to be tactful. With the JW beliefs concerning the dead, they may have thought you would have been uncomfortable with any words of comfort they would have given you, and they would have been uncomfortable with anything else. Ask them about it, but be prepared to tell them your beliefs as well. Many times JW's take questions as opportunities to preach.

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Hi everyone, this is my first post.

by John Aquila in

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hey everyone, this is my first post.

i was contacted by the witnesses in1965, baptized in that same year at age 15. i was appointed an elder in 1975 and served as an elder for 20 years..

it hasnt been long since i learn ttatt and when i totally woke up.

Gone and forgotten

Welcome John!

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dozens of copies of CoC

by Xanthippe in

there are dozens of copies of crisis of conscience on this site abebooks.co.uk, second hand from 4. .

they are shipped from the us but although there is a us version of this site i can't find it on the search function no matter what i put in.. anyway for my fellow brits cheap copies here: - .

http://www.abebooks.co.uk/servlet/searchresults?an=raymond+franz&sts=t&tn=crisis+of+conscience.

Gone and forgotten

I just ordered it on Amazon. Look around the site though...some were going for several hundred dollars. I paid about $10 with shipping for a used copy.

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Need to vent: Wife just went in full cult mode, huge fight. she is so brainwashed

by goingthruthemotions in

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out of the blue my wife started to ask me about my feeling about the borg.

i told her i didn't want to talk about it...she persisted.

she already knows how i feel, i told her that my biggest beef is that they use mind control, and yep she went in to how i was an apostate and how she doesn't want to be married to an apostate.

Gone and forgotten

GTTM, I agree with those who think she has other motives in mind. When I was in and my ex was doing things and was on the fringes, the only counsel I got was that unless he cheated on me,beat me, refused to work, or prevented me from worshipping Jehovah, then I had no reason to separate. Sounds to me like she is trying to provoke you into an act that she can claim you laid hands on her, or that you are preventing her worship. Be very careful! Do not engage her in anyway when she is acting out. Walk away from the fight.

If she really wants to stay in, and stay married, then it can all be worked out. But are you sure this is what she wants? She maybe trying to drive you away and using you leaving the org as the excuse she needs to end it and come out smelling like a rose to the congregation. You really need to get to what her true motives are. If she really wants to end it, do you really want to stay? In the end, make sure you do what is in the best interest of your kids and yourself. Protect yourself and them...see an attorney ASAP. I'm willing to bet she already has.

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New member, no longer just reader...

by freemindfade in

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so i joined very recently and began posting and commenting without a formal intro.

been reading for a while, decided it was time to jump in.

mentally i am completely cleansed of this thing, but still have to maintain a minimal involvement for spouse and family.

Gone and forgotten

freemindfade...welcome!

I am also new here and have found a warm, welcoming environment. Many here are in various stages of going through the same experience and it helps to have someone to vent to that understands. Again...Welcome.

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New to the forum

by Gone and forgotten in

first i want to say that i really appreciate this forum.

most other places i've seen are nothing but filled with spite and hate.

this site is reasonable and supportive...thank you for that!.

Gone and forgotten

Confuzzlediam, I too don't know how we survived so long...just glad we did!

Problemaddict2...lived there from 2000 - 2004...so we may have been there at the same time...possible we know each other? PM if you like...

Thanks for the warm welcome and well wishes.

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Called on a DF'd person today.

by kairos in

wow, what a surprise that was!.

i expected a warm welcome, as this was someone i have known for a very long time.. nope, uber disfellowshipped jw.

totally caught me off guard.

Gone and forgotten

My ex was df'd and even through his drunken bouts would still try and preach to anyone who would listen. I'm out, but he is trying to get back in. But as JWdaughter said, being in is the lesser of all evils for him. He is so thoroughly indoctrinated that he will never see TTATT. And for him, that is probably best.

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New to the forum

by Gone and forgotten in

first i want to say that i really appreciate this forum.

most other places i've seen are nothing but filled with spite and hate.

this site is reasonable and supportive...thank you for that!.

Gone and forgotten

Thanks guys for the support and encouragement.

Kate...I have no intention of ever going back! Sorry if I didn't make this clear...lol.

Giordano...the only time his member rested was around me...for more than the last 10 years of our marriage...the hookers took care of that! And yet even though the elders knew about that, he wasn't disfellowshipped for it...and since he repented, and I did have some form of relations with him after that (but before I knew about it) I was told I couldn't be scripturally divorced since I "forgave" him...what a bunch of crap!